Many people experience sexual difficulties at some point during their life, sometimes these problems will resolve themselves but if they don’t then professional help may be required. Sexual difficulties can occur early in an individual’s life, develop suddenly after a previously satisfying sex life or develop gradually. It is important that physical factors are ruled out before hypnotherapy is sought, so consulting your GP should be your first step.
Sexual difficulties are generally problems that prevent the individual or couple from enjoying sex, and make sex difficult. The most common sexual problems for men are erectile impotence and premature ejaculation, and for women, failure to reach orgasm or vaginismus.
Premature Ejaculation (also known as P.E), is a persistent problem that affects a mans ‘sexual performance’. It is where he ejaculates too early or ‘comes too quickly’ with non or minimal sexual stimulation. Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction in men younger that 40 years old. It can lead to such things as low self esteem, frustration, relationship problems, loss of sex drive (to avoid sexual encounters), the feeling of inadequacy and the fear of being humiliated.
Male Erectile problems/dysfunction is where a man finds it hard to get an erection, maintain an erection whilst having intercourse or being able to have an erection that was ‘hard enough’ for intercourse. This can lead to such things a feeling inadequate, guilt (not being able to satisfy their partner) and feelings of frustration and failure.
Frigidity is most common in woman and is a general loss of the urge or desire for sex. People who are suffering from frigidity can even experience a loss of sexual thoughts or the avoidance of them. It can cause the sufferer to avoid sexual intercourse, have no interest in sex and develop a fear of intimacy.
Vaginismus is where sexual intercourse becomes painful and sometimes because of this, impossible. This is due to intense muscular contractions of the muscles around the vagina. Vaginismus symptoms include the feeling of being inadequate and the fear of penetration.
Failure to reach orgasm (Anorgasmia) men and woman can fail to reach orgasm, but this problem refers to when woman fail to reach orgasm or have a loss of feeling during orgasm, even if they enjoy sex. This, as with most sexual problems can lead to the feeling of inadequacy and despair, and the non enjoyment of intercourse.
Lack of sex drive or ‘Libido’ is when a man or woman loses interest in sex and the thought of sex and/or loses their desire for intimacy This obviously can cause tension within a relationship as one side can end up feeling rejected and ‘not wanted’. In extreme cases a sufferer can hate sex and be terrified by the thought of it.